In general,many parents are encountering with such a situation and may question that why the children start behaving like that and have no idea how to handle it. This is the answer that will help new parents understand and ready to cope with it when the child has aggressive behavior properly.
What are the causes of aggression in children?
1. In young children,development of intellectual and brain growth are not complete yet while emotional part of it develops faster. Therefore, emotional expression is more obvious to be seen. The children have emotional control or restraint but ability to wait for something is still limited.
2. If the child has intellectual impairment. Developed skills can be slower than other kids in all aspects. Consequently, limitations in thinking, planning, expressing or emotioned managing can affect that children.
3. Having chronic disease or brain injury such as epilepsy, brain tumors, bleeding in the brain or thyroid dysfunction. They make the brain unable to function properly causing mood swing including abnormal nerve sensory.
4. Psychiatric disorders for example anxiety, depression and ADHD.
5. Having no parent or family who can teach them to control over their emotions.
6. Family that usually uses anger for solving all problems within the family such as aggressive speaking or behaving. As mentioned these actions drive misconception into the children so when they are under pressure the only way to solve their problems is being aggressive.
7. Imitation from friends, media or amphetamine usage
How do parents handle this aggressive behaviour?
1. Firstly, parents or caregivers must understand what are triggers and how they affect the children behavior including observe how that situation make your children feel.
2. Parents need to control their emotions first then listen to what the child wants to communicate with for instance they may want parents to pay more attention to them or want to share some stress he or she has kept. A reason for the parents to be silent is that the kids can learn how to be calm and not using aggression for solving their problems.
3. Give time for your children to calm and relax in good atmosphere. If the behavior goes quite severe. Parents should stop that behaviors by embrace from the back to prevent them from hurting themselves and destructing things. Using words by explaining why you have to it help them purpose that it is due to their disability to control over anger. Therefore, parents require moment to discuss with the kids to solve out all problems orderly.
4. In general time family members should create a good atmosphere such as activities, discussion about what they are struggling to search for a right solution which opens more chances for children to share what are happening in their life.
5. There should be an agreement between family members that when something happens everyone can talk and disclose about it without being blamed or complained by anger.
6. Adults should treat and consult all children in the same way not just telling one to be calm while having anger but tells another one to not express the anger at all. Thus, to avoid confusion telling one solution to every children is the best way.
7. When parents see intention of emotional control in the child. They should give them compliment and encouragement although that effort does not work well.
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