Age and school
In children around the age of 2, doctor has recommended parents to let them start seeing or making friends with a small group. Because this age is good for practice socializing with friends who have the same age. On the other hand, for children, whose their socializing skills seem to have some difficulties. The obstacle has been recommended by the same doctor meaning parents should gradually separate children from them by opening an opportunity for them to stay with other relatives. Which a mother can still keep watching their behaviors at the beginning. Then, increase more time, such as from 2-3 minutes to 5 minutes and 10 minutes until they get used to it and parents are able to go outside without them. The time can be longer little by little. Add all situations But before leaving the children with someone else. Do not forget to tell them where you go and when you will return. Follow what you say in order to build a trust. Finally, they will trust and be able to separate from parents.
4-6 months before attending to school
At this stage, the doctor has said, a preparation can start from a routine, which that should be close to a situation of going to school. Such as time to wake up, have lunch, or time to sleep after lunch etc. If they learn to practice, that will not be a problem while they are away from parents. However, in about few months before school starts, parents should start giving them some information about the school, and what they are going to face or experience in school as well. Those can help them feel more familiar with a place, especially, in one month left. What parents can do are pointing to the seniors who go to the same school, saying good things about the school. Or may be drive around or spend time inside the school, allowed by a teacher. All are good for preparation.
First day of school
This is the time when all readiness can be seen. The doctor suggested that prepare everything in advance, do not be rush in circumstances.If everything is hasty, will cause stress for both parent and a child. And children may end up not going to school. Moreover, while sending them to the school and kids are already with a teacher, parents should not take a long time to say goodbye. Children can feel that adults are concerned about separation. And decide leaving school instead. Sneaking is not suggested. Because children may feel afraid. Parents should tell them clearly what time will pick them up. It can be by making them look at a clock, although the children may not understand. But when repeat doing it. Children will eventually understand it. The most important thing is following what you say to them. So that children can assure that they will not be left. On the other hand, in case of children who have problems with socializing. The first day parents may ask a teacher to let them stay for a short period for 2-3 hours, then gradually increase a time. And after school, when pick them up, parents should compliment and tell them how happy you are, or how proud of them you are, to encourage them going to school on the next day.
Factors that impact on children
There are 3 major factors: children- school – parents
- Children : Some children can adjust themselves easily. Thus, going to school is not a problem for them, and parents may not need a preparation. But for some children, this can be difficult, and cause more troubles as well. In this case, parents may help adjusting the way of their thoughts, by talking about good stuff in school, or complimenting them for going to school. Including, creating a story about going to school then tell them for a motivation. The first day parents may allow them to take objects that replace them in person while they feel homesick, such as handkerchief, picture etc. And there may be a small reward for going to school as well. However, if children are unable to adjust themselves, parents may allow them to be in school for a short period then gradually increase more time. In some schools may let parents entering for a short time at the beginning of next semester. For that circumstance, the doctor has advised parents to gradually reduce the time for seeing children. So that they finally can adapt themselves to a school.
- School : Most of the time, this is not always a problem. Only in some cases as a school may not fit with a way that child perceives or learn. Such as, a school does focus on studying, but the kid loves to play and participate in activities. This may cause difficulty while adjusting. And parents may need to observe children for whole year. If they still cannot adjust, at the end of a year. Parents may consider choosing a new school for them again.
- Parents: a mother and father must make children feel that they are not left in school. And do not worry too much while they are going to school. Because children can feel that.
Most importantly parents should stop saying something that may threaten them, for example, “If you behave this way, mom will tell a teacher to punish you” This kind of conversation can drive kids to feel uncomfortable going to school. However, parents should not allow them to skip school unnecessarily, no matter what excuse a child has. Due to that cause them seeking for more excuses, and it also makes things difficult, especially, going to school.
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